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Skill Theory and Reflection

Purposeful Pausing this HolIday Season

Megan Noorman Dimmer is the Marketing Director of THRIVEtoday. Megan is a single mom of four year old twins. Megan is passionate about utilizing brain science and relational skills to create authentic connections in her family, community, and in business. Practicing and teaching the skills has changed everything for how Megan understands interacting within her relationship with other people and with the divine.In marketing, preparing for the Christmas season can always seem chaotic and challenging- it is the time[...]

Skill Thought

Our friend Amy Brown is not only a Thrive Trainer but co-author of the book Relational Skills in the Bible. Trust God from the bottom of your heart;    don’t try to figure out everything on your own.Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;    he’s the one who will keep you on track.Proverbs 3:5-6 MSG I’ve had some interesting conversations with friends about trust recently, specifically about trusting God. In uncertain times, we are brought face to face with our faith – is[...]

Shrinking the Joy Gap

My friend Dr. Marcus Warner and I have been talking a lot about our new book, The 4 Habits Of Joy-Filled Marriages. One of the points we keep bringing up is this. All of us decide to marry our spouse because we believe we will have more joy together than apart. Yet, somehow, our joy stalls over time. We become absorbed by the busyness of life, work, children and more. Our joy gardens become overrun with weeds. “What happened?” we ask as we try to figure this out. The better question may be, “What do we do now[...]

Relational Skills For The Holidays

Our friend Amy Brown is not only a Thrive Trainer but co-author of the book Relational Skills in the Bible. Here she shares some of her story with pointers on how to use the skill of Appreciation during the holidays this year. Blessings on your Thanksgiving! When I was a child, holidays were spent with a large, extended family, so that is what I grew to expect for Thanksgiving and Christmas – dozens of family members laughing, telling jokes and old stories, eating delicious favorites (turkey and dressing, pec[...]

Make Appreciation Your Superpower

Movies with heroes who swoop in to save the day are increasingly popular. Just last year 7 of the 11 top-grossing films involved a superhero, and comic books focusing on heroes are some of the most consumed stories in human history. (1) Millions of people enjoy watching someone with some special power or ability show up on the scene to rescue others, often in the nick of time. What makes stories centered around a hero appealing is the superpower they used to beat the bad guys. Often, the hero has some supernatural[...]

Intervening Where Your Brain Is Stuck

The line of traffic was as long as the eye could see. Cars were slowly inching along, and impatient drivers were in a hurry to get nowhere fast. About the time I was regretting drinking that Venti iced coffee my son began sobbing from the backseat. He told us his head hurt. "Buddy, you are dehydrated," we said. "Drink more water." My wife turned toward the backseat to check on him. I looked for an exit, to no avail. All I could see were bumpers and lines of cars. My wife and I were growing concerned. While doing[...]

Anniversary Fun

By Jen Coursey- Founder and Author of Thriving Mama's Blog and Executive Director of THRIVEtoday.  I was standing at a recent conference, behind our resource table, selling books when an attendee began asking questions about our 30 Days of Joy for Busy Married Couples book. It came up in our conversation that Chris and my anniversary was the next day and the attendee’s eyes grew wide and asked, “So what are the authors of the joyful marriage books doing for their anniversary?” I chuckled and responded th[...]

Year-End Giving Tips from THRIVEtoday

By Jeff Newburn, Certified Financial Planner® and Treasurer of THRIVEtoday THRIVEtoday is a non-profit ministry, and as such we rely heavily on the generous donations of others, especially those who have been blessed by our ministry.  Might God be putting this on your heart? This time of year, many of us consider year-end giving.  As you pray about this, here are some things you may want to consider. Originally Posted On December, 2020 Cash Donations The economic consequences of COVID-19 have been v[...]

Skill 0 – The Joy Switch

I remember the time my wife Jen was holding our screaming son when he was a baby. His brother grabbed his favorite toy, and he was having none of that. He lost it. He was crying loudly. This was a magnificent tantrum! Jen quickly offered comfort by pointing out the toy he thought was gone was already returned and within reach. If only he would open his eyes to see what was happening! Jen’s words did not resolve our son’s distress.  If we could scan the two brains in this interaction, we would see an intri[...]

Narcissism and Healthy Shame

Michel Hendricks is a co-author with Jim Wilder of The Other Half of Church. He helps churches and ministries bring the transformation of character back into the center of what they do. Originally Posted on December, 2020. Our brains are designed to metabolize emotions. Shame is one of the six big emotions with dedicated neurological circuitry (that is, sadness, anger, fear, shame, hopeless despair, disgust). In the healthy case, shame gets digested through relational attachments—through hesed. For exa[...]