Capacity & Recovery
Do you have a hard time holding onto your peace in the midst of the daily ups and downs? Do emotions feel overwhelming or keep getting in the way of your relationships? Maybe you feel “fine” about life but don’t experience much enjoyment or richness in relationships. All of these struggles are real, and I […]
Validate, Comfort & Re-Pattern
One of my favorite books, RARE Leadership, talks about VCR which is the acronym for Validate, Comfort and Re-pattern. Loved ones who validate and comfort us help our emotional brain quiet big feelings and return to relational joy. The ability to quiet big feelings and return to relational joy and peace is Skill 11 of the 19 relational brain skills. […]
Identifying Maturity
Maturity is a term we’ve all heard at some point in our lives, but the word “mature” may bring up very different pictures in our minds, from gray hairs, to teens going through puberty, to the completion of a loan, to acting “grown up”. The Life Model defines it this way “Maturity is about reaching […]
Anniversary Fun
I was standing at a recent conference, behind our resource table, selling books when an attendee began asking questions about our 30 Days of Joy for Busy Married Couples book. It came up in our conversation that Chris and my anniversary was the next day and the attendee’s eyes grew wide and asked, “So what […]
Flames of Fury
The other day Chris and I had a couple of interactions that did not go smoothly. Ok, this is an understatement. I walked away from them feeling FURIOUS. I felt boiling mad… imagine steam coming out of my ears! I tried to calm down, but it wasn’t working like usual. Thankfully, the kids were not […]