We live what we teach


We believe that relationships are what life is all about! We are relational people who strive to build relationships based on love and joy. We work to stay relational with others and work to repair the moments when our lives do not reflect our values.

we practice

Our Integrity matters

We are Transparent and have Integrity. We practice the skills, live the lifestyle and share our stories with others. We pursue Maturity with a goal of being at least at adult maturity. We take initiative and follow-thru on tasks. We are generous with others while taking care of our own needs. 
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We love Jesus

Our Spiritual Center leads us

With our founders having a deep faith in Immanuel, Jesus with us, we allow our spiritual lives to lead the way and help us grow. We are better at relationships because we stay connected with the living God. We build healthy rhythms and a group identity that reflect the teachings of Jesus. We seek to be teachable and allow relationships to help us grow. 

meet the founders

Chris & Jen Coursey

The Coursey’s live in West Michigan with their two boys, Matthew and Andrew. 

Chris and Jen Coursey lead and design the THRIVE Training program that uses brain-based exercises to train leaders, families, and communities in the 19 relational skills and the Immanuel Lifestyle.

Chris is  an ordained pastoral counselor, published author and international speaker. Jen is a teacher, blogger, THRIVE trainer, and synchronized dance instructor.

 Chris and Jen have been transformed by the 19 relational brain skills and the interactive Immanuel Lifestyle. Because of the profound transformation of their character and relationship, they want the world to hear what God has done in their lives and understand what God can do to help others.

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the journey

The Story Behind Thrivetoday

The relational skills came to fruition in 2001, through the work of Dr. Jim Wilder. Chris Coursey worked closely with Jim Wilder in the testing and creation of the THRIVE Training which was heavily influenced by the research of Dr. Allan Schore of UCLA, Dr. Daniel Siegel (UCLA) and more pioneers. Wilder took the best in brain research to develop exercises that Chris tested in the redemptive community setting where he worked.

In 2002, the first in-person THRIVE Training was held. In 2006, the team did a major redesign to include intentional timing for skill practices for each of the 19 skills in every training track. 3 years later, THRIVE Training events go international where they have now been led in the US, Canada, South Korea, Australia, with more on the horizon.

For the next 10 years, more resources were published, more trainings were held, and soon THRIVE became known for gathering people to practice skills, build relationships and find interpersonal growth. 

THRIVE Training was originally a training launched through the organization, Life Model Works. Chris and Jen Coursey soon launched an independent organization known as THRIVEtoday, dedicated to creating training resources and running events focused on the acquisition, strengthening and spreading the 19 relational skills to the world. 

When COVID-19 disrupted life in 2020, THRIVEtoday had to pivot to create more online learning opportunities for skill training and practice. Through the pandemic, the organization launched shorter training events online, wrote books and developed online courses, and made the skills more accessible than ever before.

quick facts

get to know THRIVETODAY

#1 What’s the best way to start?

Sign up for our email list, follow us on social media, and check out our YouTube channel. We have many free events and resources to introduce you to the skills.

#2 Do I have to be a Christian to use the skills?

Relational skills are for every living human being with a brain. All of us need these important skills! Some of the 19 skills are for the spiritually-minded, based on both neuroscience and Scripture. We find those with an open mind can benefit from learning these particular skills, even if you do not “subscribe” to the Christian faith.

#3 Which book should I read first?

The Joy Switch is a great introduction to the relational brain and what we call Skill Zero in the 19 skills. You’ll find useful practices you can use try right away!

#4 What’s the difference between theory and skill practice?

Theory is the understanding and background for each of the 19 skills. Theory brings clarity and awareness for how we are created and how relational skills fit in to the way humans think, feel and live. 

Skill practices are the action steps that help our brain and relationships change. We learn, strengthen and spread skills. This is a brain work-out! Here is where we try new things to stretch and grow!