Do you ever find yourself thinking or experiencing the following?
“I’m not sure how to build stronger bonds with my spouse.”
“I don’t know how to connect after being in a rut for so long.”
“I want to have more fun with my spouse.”
“We want to be able to appreciate each other better.”
How do I improve my marriage?
Coming soon…
Each of our 5 foundational skills will help you build new habits and expand your emotional capacity:
Skill 0 – The Relational Circuits. Checking that you are in the right frame of mind to connect relationally with others – a crucial step to all of your interactions.
Skill 1 – Share Joy. Learning how to experience joy in every circumstance.
Skill 2 – Simple Quiet. Build habits that foster peace and calm so you can rely on them later.
Skill 4 – Create Appreciation. Healthy minds are full of appreciation.
Skill 13 – See What God Sees. When we can see people and events from God’s perspective it leads to a life filled with hope and direction.
A PATHWAY TO STRENGTHENING YOUR MARRIAGE
Intro Video
In this segment of ‘How The Relational Skills Address My Biggest Problems’, discover how developing brain-based relational skills can make all the difference in your marriage journey!
Book
Part of The 4 Habits Series, learn about shrinking the ‘joy gap’ in your marriage. Regularly feel connected and happy, have problems feel manageable, and see your marriage become a reliable source of joy.
Date Nights
Join THRIVEtoday founders, Chris and Jen Coursey, for 3 at-home date nights!
Communication is one of the top challenges in most marriages. However, much like an iceberg, good communication involves more than the words we use. It’s the nonverbal elements behind our words that pack a punch.
In this first Date Night, Chris and Jen share about communication from a new perspective. Join us for a fun evening as they share simple techniques that will be game changers for your communication. Learn to tell the difference between when words help and hurt. This evening will fill your marriage tool-box and leave you feeling energized and connected.
Wait a minute, it’s actually possible to stay relationally connected during conflict? Join Chris and Jen for a in-depth look at what it means to keep the relationship bigger than the problem and learn the biggest factor that will determine how well you will be able to resolve conflict in your marriage. This evening will provide teaching and exercises that will bring a deeper peace and connection in your home. The best part: much of what you learn can be used for resolving conflict almost anywhere!
We’ve all heard the phrase, “give and take,” and many wives might say, “I give, he takes.” But what if the marriage dance we need to do isn’t give and take, but joy and rest? Learning and implementing these key elements into your marriage make for an easy give and take that both spouses can enjoy.
Each date night includes:
2 Recordings (approx. 90 mins each)
A variety of Skill Practices which Chris and Jen will lead you through as a couple.
This skill is what we call synchronized attachments. This comes from our ability to attach to our primary caregiver and sets the tone for our bonds with our family. This skill helps us share a mutual mind state- allowing us to share emotions like joy or grief together.
Check out this course to grow your capacity to better navigate the ups and downs of life with more joy and peace and less anxiety. As you take the course, notice which skills you want to continue growing and follow our additional resources for that skill on our Foundational 5 page.
This course focuses on the 5 core skills to help you grow your capacity and build muscle mass relationally, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
Bonds form the foundation for life, using God’s hesed love. In this Online Practice Community you will learn how weak bonds can be strengthened and how true bonds enable us to walk in love, even with our enemies. This event covers Skill 3 (Form Bonds for Two) and Skill 5 (Form Family Bonds).
Podcast
Our podcast addresses marriage and related topics in these episodes:
Appreciation is packaged joy, or actively recalling moments of joy. Chris tell us how important this is in marriage and how it reminds us about the “good stuff” in our marriage relationships.
Chris explains what a “bond for 2” is, how it works in the brain and how it naturally grows. He also gives ideas for how to grow a healthy bond for 2 in your brain if you are missing this skill.
In this delightful episode about the importance of sharing joy with our loved ones, Chris explains some of the science behind connection and shares several helpful exercises that we can use to connect with those close to us in a meaningful way.
In today’s interview, Thrive Premier Training grad and Thrive volunteer, Andy, tells us about how relational skills helped when facing some challenges in his marriage. He takes us through his journey of learning relational skills and how he and his wife incorporated skills into their marriage to improve their connection and build capacity together.
We hear from Eric & Jiayan who saw a tangible difference in their marriage when they started learning and practicing relational skills together. As they enter parenthood they are so thankful for a stronger bond. Chris weighs in on what a blessing it is when you are relational in your most important relationships.
Webinars
These 30-60 minute FREE WEBINARS address issues to do with marriage and connection:
Join Jen and Chris Coursey with a panelist of couples discussing how the 19 relational skills have impacted their marriage. In one hour you will learn the basics of success in marriage through developing simple skills that you can put into practice immediately. Learn the basics of storytelling, learning to see your spouse as Jesus does, as well as improving skills of capacity and rest.
Learn about shrinking the ‘joy gap’ in your marriage. Regularly feel connected and happy, have your problems feel manageable, and see your marriage become a reliable source of joy.
Chris and Jen Coursey created the 30 Days of Joy handbook so that busy married couples could thrive. If you are like most married couples, your plate is full. Your calendar is booked. Your to-do list is long. Somewhere in the middle of all the hurry and flurry many couples feel their marriage has lost some flavor. This wasn’t planned, but joy levels are not what you want or dreamed they would be. Whatever your situation, this interactive handbook is designed for fifteen minutes of practice each day.
Most of us grew up thinking that joy is random and fleeting, instead of something we can actually count on or build our life around. But brain science has revealed that joy is the perfect word to describe the fuel on which our brains run. So how do we live a joy-filled life? Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey show us how to build habits that fill our lives with greater joy and satisfaction.
Keeping joy levels high over the holidays can take a bit of strategy sometimes – we hope you enjoy these ideas we put together to help you build connections over the holiday season.
