Finding the best relational skill resources for yourself, your family, or community, begins with tuning into what the felt needs are. This page provides resources by topic and includes problems or felt needs that the correlating resources can help with.
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Each topic includes at least one free resource, which is marked with an *
Understanding What Relational Skills Are and Why we Need Them
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I’m not quite sure what relational skills are.”
“I’m new here and want to know more.”
“I’m not sure if relational skills are relevant or necessary.”
“I love your materials but a family member doesn’t understand them.”
Resources to Help:
* How Relational Skills Address My Biggest Problems Video Series
* Relational Skills in Real Life Weekly Podcast
The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled People Book
Building Emotional and Relational Capacity
Problems/Felt Needs:
“Life feels overwhelming.”
“I’m struggling to manage everything on my plate.”
“People want/need more from me than I feel like I’m able to give.”
Resources to Help:
* The Relational Skills in Real Life Podcast | Episodes 5 & 30
The Foundational 5 Introductory Course – Theory and practice
Relational Circuits
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I want to interact with others in a more relational and natural way.”
“I easily get frustrated with people or situations.”
“I struggle to remain my best self under difficult circumstances.”
“I wish I could be more present with the people in my life.”
Resources to Help:
* The Joy Switch Webinar – Theory-focused
The Joy Switch Book – Theory with some practice
Understanding Your Joy Switch Course – Theory with some practice
Relational Circuits Courses – Practice-focused
Share Joy
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I’m lacking joy in my life.”
“I want to learn how to enjoy people more.”
“I want to be able to find contentment and enjoy being with people even when circumstances are hard.”
Resources to Help:
* Can I Experience Joy When I Don’t Feel Happy? Webinar – Theory
How to Spread the Good Stuff Course – Theory with some practice
Share Joy Courses – Practice-focused
Simple Quiet
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I want more peace and calm in my life.”
“I don’t know how to downshift and live life in a calm way.”
“How can I learn to take breaks when life is so busy?”
“My body constantly feels tense and stressed.”
Resources to Help:
* Finding My Calm Webinar – Theory
How Do I Stay Calm? Course – Theory with some practice
Simple Quiet Courses – Practice-focused
Appreciation
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I tend to get stuck in negative thinking.”
“I find it hard to find the positives in my life.”
“I want to be able to stop and savor the gifts God has given me.”
“I want to better remember life’s special moments.”
Resources to Help:
* Going Beyond Gratitude Webinar – Theory
Rewiring My Brain Course – Theory with some practice
Create Appreciation Courses – Practice-focused
See What God Sees (aka Godsight)
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I often feel distant from God.”
“God talks to other people but not to me.”
“I wish I could feel God’s closeness more regularly.”
“I want to better understand my circumstances from God’s point of view.”
Resources to Help:
* My Life Through God’s Eyes Webinar – Theory
Is God in the Room? Course – Theory with some practice
Godsight Courses – Practice-focused
Navigate my Emotions (aka Return to Joy)
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I struggle knowing what I am feeling.”
“I tend to avoid or dismiss all emotions.”
“My emotions can sink me for hours or days.”
“I struggle to be present with others who are feeling any or certain emotions.”
Resources to Help:
* The Relational Skills in Real Life Podcast | Episode 59 – Bite-sized Theory
* Stories of Emotions Webinar – Theory
Tools for Navigating Emotions Course – Practice-focused
Inviting Jesus Into Our Emotions Course – Practice-focused
Anxiety
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I regularly feel afraid of the future.”
“I struggle to manage what I feel.”
“My brain is constantly busy trying to solve problems or find ways to reduce pain in my life.”
“I don’t feel peace in my body.”
Resources to Help:
* The Relational Skills in Real Life Podcast | Episode 20 – Bite-sized Theory
* Stopping the Cycle of Anxiety Webinar – Theory
Overcoming Anxiety in an Unsettled World Course – Theory with some practice
The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled People Book
Marriage
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I’m not sure how to build stronger bonds with my spouse.”
“I don’t know how to connect after being in a rut for so long.”
“I want to have more fun with my spouse.”
“We want to be able to appreciate each other better.”
Resources to Help:
* The Relational Skills in Real Life Podcast | Episode 10 – Bite-sized Theory
* Marriage 8:29 min Video – Bite-sized Theory
The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages Book
Marriage Date Night Series – Theory with some practice
Parenting
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I want to connect better with my children.”
“I want to learn how to correct my children without disrupting our relationship.”
“I struggle with helping my children process their emotions.”
“I want to learn how to help my kids build resilience.”
Resources to Help:
* TheRelational Skills in Real Life Podcast | Episodes 29, 36, 38 – Bite-sized Theory
* Visit our YouTube playlist for Parents – Stories and examples
* Raising Relational Kids in a Non-Relational World Webinar – Theory
* Thriving Mamas Blog – Stories and examples
The 4 Habits of Raising Joy-Filled Kids Book
Encouragement for Maxed Out Moms Course – Theory and practice
Counseling
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I desire to see more sustainable transformation in my clients.”
“I want to build my ability to better walk alongside my clients without holding onto the burden of their problems.”
“I want to help my clients learn relational skills.”
Resources to Help:
* How Can The Relational Skills Make a Difference in My Counseling Practice? Webinar – Theory
* Visit our YouTube playlist for Counselors
Why Helping Clients Heal Isn’t Enough Course – Theory with some practice
Conflict
Problems/Felt Needs:
“I avoid conflict as much as possible.”
“I don’t know how to engage in conflict without damaging my relationships”
“I tend to get hurt and struggle to recover when I get in disagreements with others.”
“I don’t have the the ability to walk through conflict while remaining my best true self”
Resources to Help:
* Communication & Conflict 11:48 min Video – Bite-sized Theory
* Hope for Conflict Webinar – Theory
Conflict: When Good Communication Isn’t Enough Course – Theory with some practice
